Teaching your child the Quran part II

The Quran holds an important place in our hearts and lives and we all hope that our children grow to love the Quran and live by it. However such an aim requires the parents to strive in order to attain it. Rather than giving you a specific “this is the way” set of instructions to memorizing the Quran I think there so many factors at hand that require a program to be changed in order to suit the individual student and teacher.  Therefore I think that you should take into consideration the following points before looking towards our program as a strict model for your child.

1.      Being honest with yourself:  What do we mean?  Read points 2, 3, and 4

2.      Knowing how much time you can give:  We are all busy. Life is as such.  Memorizing the Quran by age ten will take a lot of devotion never mind 5 or 7.   Don’t set goals of a page a day if all you can give is a half an hour. It might work in Juz Ama’ but once you get past 4 sections of the Quran and you’ve got 80 pages to review with a child who is not going to do it without supervision, 30 minutes will not cut it. 

3.      Knowing the limits of your child:  Sometimes we forget we are dealing with children.  Our high hopes for our children sometimes blinds our vision and we expect more of them than they can really give.  Especially if your child does not understand Arabic, memorizing all of these sounds that they do not understand may not be as interesting as running around and making a mess in the living room, or sneaking into the fridge.  Even if you have 5 hours a day to spend on Quran, your children don’t.

4.      Understand that this becomes cumulative:  This refers back to 1 and 2   In other words it builds up.  The first day you start memorizing you are reading one chapter that has a total of 21 words.  This may not take a lot of time, but when you get to Baqarah it will.   One of the most important things to remember when memorizing the Quran is staying consistent.  You want to set a program that you will be able to see through till the end.  A program that is too easy is not difficult to add on to.  On the other hand, a difficult program that you cannot handle normally makes people go back to the drawing board, wastes a lot of time, is frustrating and self-defeating.   Let me put it this way.  If you had memorized half a page a day yourself, you would have memorized the Quran in less than 4 years.  That is pretty embarrassing for those of us who have been at it for God knows how many years and we are still struggling with a few chapters.   This happens because we are not consistent.  One way to destroy consistency is to take on more than you can handle.

The steps

1.      Intention

You must remember that what you are doing is a form of worship and therefore you must be sincere that you are doing this for Allah’s sake and his alone.  For your child to carry in his heart the last revelation for mankind.  So that he or she can recite the words of Allah and exemplify their lessons through his or her actions. 

2.      Asking for Allah’s help

Embarking on such a test is no easy feat but it is accomplishable.  Allah chooses whom He wills to fill such a noble position and it is only befitting that we ask Him to make us and our children amongst them, that He makes it easy for us, and that He gives us the patience that it requires to complete the journey.

3.      Memorization

With everything we talk about here, there is no golden rule in terms of how much, be it in Quran or time.  This goes back to you and your child.  You can add or subtract as you need.  Our program is the following.

a.       Read each verse a couple of times for the child (2-3 times)

b.      Read the verse again and then have the child repeat after you. (3 times)

c.       Have the child read the verse by themselves without assistance (2-3 times)

d.      Move to the next verse and repeat the process

e.       Once you have completed the surah, page, or section you have decided to memorized, recite it for your child from beginning to end

f.       Have the child read it back to you from beginning to end.  Help them along the way, remind them as they forget what comes next.

g.      Repeat this until they are reciting that section or surah nearly by themselves.

We will not move on to a new chapter until the last one he memorized is perfect.  This is absolutely essential to this program.  Moving onto something new before he has mastered the previous chapters we have found to be unsuccessful and detrimental to making progress in the long run. 

4.      Review

If it were not for the fact that without memorization you would have nothing to review, than this would be the most important part of memorizing the Quran.  We absolutely will not move onto a new chapter until all previous chapters are memorized by heart and read without mistakes.  We will review all of what has been memorized previously before we move onto memorizing something new.  Each day or week this will eventually add up, so there is a need to eventually divide it in half, or thirds, or fourths, as well as adding a second time during the day that you just sit to review.  Most of your time should be spent reviewing what you have already memorized.  If you find yourself in a review to memorize ratio where memorization is more than 30 percent you are most likely going to hit a point where the child is going to forget the old memorization and when you go back to it you will have to rememorize it all over again.  This wastes precious time and is demotivating.  Just remember a 3^rd of a page a day is the Quran memorized in 5 years, so don’t feel like you have to memorize too much too fast. Once your child is able to read Arabic this will add another dynamic where you can set aside time for your child to review on their own without your assistance and time for review will inevitably increase.  Here you would set an assignment based on your child’s ability to sit on their own without supervision.    

5.      Consistency

Review without consistency is no review at all.  The Prophet peace be upon him said “The most beloved actions to Allah are the most consistent even if they be small”.  365 days a year, there is no summer vacation when it comes to the Quran.  The prophet peace be upon him said "The example of the person who knows the Qur'an by heart is like the owner of tied camels. If he keeps them tied, he will control them, but if he releases them, they will run away." 

6.      Incremental strictness

This is the Fluency vs. Accuracy argument.  You don’t put a child in the pool expecting him to swim like an Olympian before he can take off his floaties.  Reciting the Quran properly is a must, but in the beginning especially with a child you need to be lenient in their learning curve.  You should not expect your son or daughter to sound like Hudhaify with perfect makharij (proper pronunciation of each letter) and tajweed (rules of recitation) for each chapter before you move onto the next.  We make certain first that our son has the words in the correct order, and we are strict with this, while we may let pronunciation, and tajweed slide.  As the memorization becomes solidified we become stricter with making sure that letter and sound is pronounced correctly.  As we move along in the review process we will slowly enforce more rules of tajweed. 

7.      Listening to the recitation of the Quran

Children are great imitators.  Allowing your children to listen to the specific chapters they are memorizing will help as they will try to imitate the reciter. As for whom to let your children listen to, we all have our favorite reciters, but this should not blind our desire to have the most correct recitation.  I have asked this question to many teachers of Quran and the one name that always comes up is Muhammad Siddiq Al-Minshawy.  You can download his recitation here.

We hope that this post is beneficial to you.  We pray that Allah makes all of your children and our children amongst those who memorize the Quran.  May Allah reward you for taking the time and having the concern to look into how to go about doing so, and may He make you successful.

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Teaching your child the Quran - Part 1

By Umm Abdurahman

Most of us hope that our children will love the Quran, and pray that they memorize it, but many families have difficulty doing so, and don’t know how to be successful in this area. Some may try and after a few failures put it off until their children are a little older whereupon they may look into sending them to classes or paying for a private tutor. However many of us fail to realize that the journey to such a lofty goal starts much sooner than we expect. So what can you do to ensure your child has the best start possible?

1.      Recite the Quran for your unborn child

Research suggest that a fetus can hear sounds from as early as 16 weeks, and around 23 weeks on a baby’s hearing is developed enough  to enable him/her to respond to outside noise. Furthermore studies also show that a six month old fetus can move his body to the rhythm of his mother’s voice. Around this time your baby will use sound as his primary connection to the world and his central source of information about what’s going on outside of the womb, so what better way to bond with your child than by sharing the book of Allah with him/her.  Both parents should recite to their child whilst he/she is in the womb, as often as they can. This is a wonderful way for the parents to interact with their child before the birth. This early bonding will set the stage for a lifetime of healthy relationships.  It is beneficial for mother, baby, and everyone else in the household.

2.      Playing the Quran for your child 

After your child is born continue to surround him/her with the recitation of the Quran. When I gave birth to my first child I had little experience dealing with colic and when my son suffered from it, at times I was overwhelmed. Alhamdulillah we soon discovered that when my husband would pick him up, and recite the Quran to him while rocking him back and forth, he would calm down and fall into a deep, peaceful slumber. We took note of this, and when we moved our little guy into his own room, at 4 months, we would play the Quran for him in his room until he fell asleep. From then on my children have always gone to sleep listening to the Quran. Soon after If turned off the lights and closed the door without the Quran playing they would cry.   I truly believe that the Quran is very comforting for children especially if you made it a point to recite often to your child whilst pregnant.  Another added bonus for me was that it helped them sleep better, my son went from waking up two or three times a night to sleeping all through the night, but best of all, it instilled a love of the Quran in them. Both of my children began memorizing the Quran purely through passive listening. Now 4 years later I cannot put any of my children to bed without requests for the Quran. We found this to be such a powerful tool that we even went on to play Quran for them throughout the day while they played.

3.      Give a personal Quran to your child

Children love to have things they can call theirs. Give them a Quran even if they are too young to read.  Just like with anything else gifts are treasured and seen as important no matter what age you are.  Give it a special place on the bookshelf.  Just make sure you let them hold it when you’re around.  Children can be a bit rough with books when they are young. Teach them to respect the Quran and treat it with care.

4.      Reading with your child as soon as he/she can speak

Children are sponges and each one of us has had those experiences where we find our children using some vocabulary we did not expect they were capable of, but they heard it in our conversation, memorized it and tried putting it to us.   If they can mimic your speech, then why not start them memorizing the speech of Allah?  As soon as your child begins to form words encourage him/her to say things like bismillah, ar-Rahman, ar-Raheem. Go slowly and repeat frequently.  As you keep coming back to it, you will notice he/she will begin to pronounce the words more easily. Soon the words will become ayahs and in next to no time, he/she will be have memorized complete surahs.

5.      Let your child see you reading the Quran often

This is just some basic but often overlooked advice.  The whole idea of “Do as I say not as I do” has not and will not ever work.  Your children love you, they look up to you. For this reason, they are going to try to mimic everything you do.   So you have to ask yourself, what are you teaching them?   If your children see you spending a lot of time on your laptop or sitting in front of the TV, then chances are they will try to do the same thing. Set a positive example by setting aside time for the Quran daily as part of your schedule.  Let your children see you recite, and then let them follow just as they follow with everything else. 

We pray that these tips are benefit to you and your children, and we ask that Allah rewards you for all of your efforts in teaching your children the Quran, and that he makes them of those who memorize it.  We ask that he makes us among the best of people as his noble Messenger peace be upon him said:  “The best of you is the one who learns the Quran and teaches it”.  (Bukhari  5027)

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